I think I am quite lucky in the fact that I know many ASP people who cannot “switch off” to noise.
If I am at work and the door in banging over and over quite often I don’t hear it at all, someone will come in and say “how can you listen to that banging!?!”…
This has only happened since I have had children though, and I think this may be a self preservation thing, as if I couldn’t switch off to them at all I would go absolutely mental!
I find at work, little breaks my concentration, however… There are two three things that I cannot stand that will drive me to a massive screaming fit! (Nearly anyway!!!)
1. Nerf guns….
Whoever invented nerf guns should be very ashamed of themselves…. I can stand about three clicks of the trigger before it has to go away. They are guns that click and fire foam bullets so you have “click click click” and “thud thud thud”… That, I cannot hear… It literally turns me into the hulk… And the kids even make fun of me and happily tell their friends it sends me mad… Thanks!
2. High pitched moaning….
It seems people who have asp tend to go into this horrific high pitched stream of noise when they are wound up, ESP if they’re little, or female….
I had to learn to stop this noise as it drove my mum (she’s normal!) mad… Now, if my kids come to me making that sound I have to tell them I literally can’t hear a word they’re saying…
3. Children fighting….mainly in the back of a car….
Having kids talk at me and over the top of each other is too much to deal with… It feels like my head will explode….
So, these are the things in my day to day life that actually stop me from working as a person!! Haha!
At work, I get so engrossed in what I’m Doing that nothing puts me off… This has become humorous to people I work with as they can make me jump… It doesn’t bother me… It’s nice to have a bit of banter as they say!!!
That is, unless its boring me, in which case I switch off just as easily but do… Nothing….
I find I go in phases….. I love something and I throw myself into it then one day I just stop… It’s took me 4 attempts to finish university… Don’t get me wrong, I love it! And I want to do that as a job more than anything! But, the first two years was spent at a nice small uni outlet, the last one was in the main building itself where, if I’m honest, I struggled to walk down the corridor!!!
It was such an awful daunting place that I left… And that’s a shame, as I could be in a better career now!!!!
I’m going back in September to face my fears!
So, I have no problem concentrating on something I enjoy, but the second I learn it or don’t enjoy it I am just as capable of giving up….
This leads to lifelong frustrations as I grow older and still have achieved nothing except having kids (whom you can’t give up on!)
It takes many many personal reflections, many sleepless nights and many toilet breaks to build yourself up to me more than someone who sits at home on the Internet eating biscuits and smoking.
It’s not as easy for us to stay in a job or get far in life because the challenges make your brain switch off to life and you have to actively go against your natural state to force yourself to do it… Which causes distress… And as we all know, forcing ourselves to have distress is not part of human nature.. But the results if we don’t do that are an unfulfilled life…tricky…
We will reach our goals if we learn to force ourselves to concentrate without shutting down… Have a life without obsessing, stay in education and enjoy all subjects… Without such obsessive highs and lows we will probably find that we can power through it… So, have an obsessive hobby, but don’t let that be your career, or partner, as if you do, it will only lead to a meltdown, and then your life suffers…
Have hobbies you can throw away, get bored of and research.. That will keep your natural state happy! But let the rest be a middle of the road… Bit of obsessiveness but then chilling out when you need to.
Hope that made sense!!!!!! I’m off to eat some biscuits 😉